Resource Using Choice Theory psychology in Your Own Life


  1. Think of something that’s not the way you want it to be in your life? (In Choice Theory terms, there is a discrepancy between how you want your life to be and how you actually see it.)
  2. How do you want it to be? (details, be as specific as you can.)
  3. What have you done so far to rectify this? (You may have tried some very sensible approaches.)
  4. Have your efforts so far got you what you want? (No matter how sensible, no matter how “right”, did they work?)
  5. Whatever you did so far, it was the best you knew how to do. (Don’t blame yourself. If you had known a better way you would have chosen it.)
  6. In this matter, who can you control? (In a sense this question asks if you want to wait for someone else to “fix” the situation.)
  7. Is there something you can do about it yourself? … today? (This something might be quite a small step, maybe even just setting time aside to think about the problem. TIP: Was there some similar situation in your past where you found a strategy that was successful, one that might suggest a strategy for today’s problem.)
  8. Spell out the what, when, where, who and how of your plan. (Good planning means being very specific.)
  9. If you don’t know what to do, is there someone who might help you find a solution?
  10. If your plan didn’t work well, what do you need to change? (Plans don’t always work first time around. Learn from the experience and adjust the plan.)

Author: Brian Lennon

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